http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/ !!Helen's Page!! Tue, 07 Feb 2006 07:10:01 PST http://www.blogdrive.com Copyright 2006. http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/115.html Tue, 07 Feb 2006 14:48:41 GMT The whole of the mediation took place in one session as it had been very difficult to arrange date mutually convenient to both parties. It was deceided that following conversations with each party, it would be appropriate to conduct the mediation in this way. The party1 had asked the court if the case could go to mediation following a court hearing, and it was duly agreed. This however had been agreed in the Summer of 2005 and it had taken until early Feb 2006 to arrange for this to happen. The process was explained to party 1 during the introductions of the first meeting. She appeared... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=115 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/114.html Thu, 26 Jan 2006 18:08:17 GMT TLC Steeple view This was the second visit and I was sure that like before it was not going to be easy. There were extra people present and from the start S the main speaker made her points by being confrontational. It left very little for anyone else to get their say. Party 2, the son, would not engage at all, despite my coaxing him into the conversation. Party 1, S, became more excitablle as the time wore on. There were clear issues that were more to do with her partner than party 2. It was obvious that this further meeting was not appropriate for mediation at that time. I believe... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=114 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/113.html Wed, 21 Dec 2005 10:28:34 GMT Went to an interesting TLC mediation last night. Clients included Y/P, grandmother and partner and also Y/P mum. Grandmother spoke first to outline the issues. Y/P had been living with her for about 1 month since mother had thrown Y/P out because of an assault. Y/P has had previous mental health issues. Hd been badly bullied at school and spent one year having in-house mental health treatment. Was now on mediacation for depression since her move. The Y/P mental health issues had previously been well managed and monitored but since moving there has been no support in this area. Y/P was... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=113 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/112.html Wed, 14 Dec 2005 21:18:12 GMT Have so far undertaken two mediations this week. The initial visits for a neighbour mediation and a full Y/P mediation. The neighbour mediation was concerning noise and I believe that it was going well and that all the points had been covered with party 1 agreeing at first to a full mediation meeting. At the last moment, the party changed her mind and would not agree to going any further. Party 2 were very interested in going to a full face2 face. Decided to see if I could turn the situation around as I fully believed that face 2 face would really work well in this situation. However it... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=112 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/111.html Fri, 09 Dec 2005 15:42:22 GMT I'm using each new area of work I undertake as a learning opportunity. Today I had to give a presentation to GDC, I havent done many before so I used some NLP skills to help me get through it. In other words, I became that skilled presenter forgetting to be too nervous and remembering the information I was required to get across. It was really useful snd I am anxious to read some more so that I can use the skills again and at higher level. I really need to get onto a course as I believe that what I can learn will be very useful to BM in the future. I observed some of our new... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=111 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/110.html Thu, 08 Dec 2005 12:00:59 GMT I am beginning to notive a pattern that seems to occur when a second TLC meeting is held, the parties seem to get stuck. Following our first visit, the feedback I got was very positive, that the parties were beginning to open up and discuss some of the issues that had arisen to get them to their present position. However during our second visit, J was not in any mood to respond to anything. An incident had occured during the week that had been an invasion of one of the party's privacy and it was demonstrated that it was not acceptable, however it was not demonstrated directly to the... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=110 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/109.html Sun, 04 Dec 2005 09:34:58 GMT Okay, so what did I learn from Thursday's mediation. The meetings were introduced in the correct way. We got party 1's view of the situation although due to her age it may have been a little confused. Party 2 finds it difficult to understand she is doing anything other than day to day living. May be a relationship issue such as jealousy or lifestyle of one party has changed. We will undertake shuttle phone mediation due to party 2's age. prty 2 is very aggrieved that she has an ASBO that could be served on her tenanacy. This needs to be resolved. http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=109 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/108.html Fri, 25 Nov 2005 12:48:04 GMT Its been a very full week, lucky I am at home today. Spent yesterday in London talking to TCM. Will not know until laternext week if it will be useful to me. If it has then I will have decisions to make about my future. It makes things look not quite so bleak where I am although it may only be for the short- term. Have really been using some of the skills I learned during the 6 days mediation training. Have managed to get far more people to mediation. Could be because I have changed my approach in that I also feel more comfortable and confident in what I ma saying to clients. Just... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=108 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/107.html Sat, 19 Nov 2005 08:04:27 GMT Still not fed up with the colour. Well we came to the end of 6 days of workplace mediation training. I believe I have really filled in the gaps left by previous work and my practice has changed. I am able to deal with telephone calls with far more confidence as I begin the mediation process from that moment. As soon as the conversation begins I use active listening, rephrasing , reframing and summing up. Its brilliant clients sound as if they know they have been listened to and respond with more willingness to have an initial meeting with mediators. I believe that taking... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=107 http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/archive/105.html Tue, 08 Nov 2005 15:58:00 GMT What a fantastic day. I met 11 people from very varied working backgrounds and with vrey different experiences and we formed a workplace mediation training group. I began to realise hpw much I dont know about mediation and how much I will need to know in order to become an effective mediator. We learned what mediation is. What skills and qualities are required to be a mediator. We demonstrated what conflict looks like, so very visual. How mediation benefits organisations. What would be the ground rules of how the group will work together. Diversity. We looked at the... (more) http://helenspage.blogdrive.com/comments?id=105